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The Power of Forgiveness

March 19, 2012

The single most powerful tool that I have learned and practiced is the power of forgiveness.  When you experience negative situations or you stew on memories of people who you perceive have done you wrong, hurt you, or created drama in your life in some way, the thought of forgiving them may seem daunting. 

Forgiveness does not mean that you forget completely about people and situations that have harmed you.  Rather, it means that you choose to release the feelings of sadness, fear, hurt, and anger because you don’t want to carry around heavy, useless resentments anymore.  Remember the Three R’s? Re-hashing, resentment and regret?  Forgiveness is about letting go of the toxic re-enactments of your past in your mind and heart.

Forgiveness is about letting go of the energy and power of these feelings in an effort to move forward.  It is about being kind to you by releasing negative feelings and thoughts to make space for positive feelings and thoughts.  

Forgiveness is a process that occurs with practice over time and while this may sound like a tall order there are some simple things you can do to make a start at forgiveness and sometimes a very good one.

Pray for and/or think positive thoughts about the person you need to forgive.  Pray that they have everything that you want for yourself.  Think about their redeeming qualities and notice the good things about them.

Imagine yourself and see yourself  free of the resentment. What would you be doing, saying and feeling?

Write down your resentment; get it out of you and on to paper.  You may find that you have been holding on to the drama and not forgiving because you get something out of it.  What is the payoff for holding on to your resentment and not practicing forgiveness?

Practicing (and yes it does take practice) forgiveness frees you up to fill yourself with positivity!  It can be a great relief to finally experience forgiveness……Optimists Rock!! 



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Copyright 2012   Robin B. O’Grady


2 Comments leave one →
  1. Sara Marez-Fields permalink
    March 22, 2012 7:27 pm

    You entry on forgiveness was a perfect thing for me to read today. A friend is really struggling with this so I copied and pasted it for that person. Thanks

  2. robinogrady permalink*
    March 23, 2012 2:58 am

    I am so glad this article was helpful to you. There is freedom in forgiveness and it comforts me to know that I am not the only one who has experienced this! Warm Regards, Robin

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