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Taking Stock

September 8, 2013

“Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement and success have no meaning.  —Benjamin Franklin

Being able to see your strengths and weaknesses is so important, and a great way to do it in a balanced way is to take stock of yourself. Identifying your personal strengths and weaknesses can help you build on your greatest assets and develop and transform your weaknesses into strengths. Constant but steady growth, progress, and improvement create the climate and environment for the achievement and success you desire!

Nine years ago when my first marriage ended in divorce, I blamed my husband and his choices for the demise of our marriage because I was hurt, angry, and in denial about my own bad behavior. I didn’t see at the time that I was 50 percent of the problem. When I was finally able to look at my own behavior and take responsibility for my defects in the relationship, it was literally like putting on a new pair of glasses, and believe me, I didn’t want to admit what I was seeing. I had been self-centered to the extreme by expecting my ex-husband to fulfill my list of never-ending emotional demands.

You see, subconsciously I thought it was his job to make me happy but unfortunately for us both, that was impossible. I also found out that I had some strengths in the relationship too and that I am fiercely loyal and committed to the people I love.  I learned that no one is responsible for my happiness but me. Everyone has his or her own row to hoe.  Happiness is an inside job and it isn’t anyone’s responsibility to make you happy.

Two unhappy people together don’t equal happiness, but when two happy and whole people get together, there is no telling just how fantastic the relationship will be! Don’t be afraid to look at your own strengths and weaknesses. While it may be somewhat painful, you will also find out just how great you are and don’t forget……Optimists Rock!

Copyright 2013  Robin O’Grady

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