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March 29, 2014

Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” —Mark Twain

One day I was driving along a four-lane highway enjoying the sunshine and having a great day. The next thing I knew, a truck pulled up fast and furiously on my right. In it was a red-faced volatile man cursing, yelling, and shaking his fist at me. For the life of me, I could not imagine what I had done to arouse such anger or to offend him. I had now seen anger at its finest, and it really made me reflect on what is and isn’t important. I blessed him as he raced off, and I chuckled (just a little) because it seemed so ridiculous to me that he would get SO angry.

Maybe there was more to his story that I don’t know, but I have made a commitment to myself to drive friendly. My motto on the road is “merge,” which reminds me not to get frustrated and to allow others in whenever possible. Next, I never want to be a red-faced, fist-shaking woman, so I just don’t let myself feel too many things are a big deal anymore.

Have you ever seen someone completely blow something out of proportion? One of the best lessons I ever learned was that there aren’t really many big deals. A big deal today will most likely not mean a lot tomorrow. Maybe the perceived problem is very important, but usually, it’s really not. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being most important, ask yourself, “How important is this problem, situation, or concern?”  Another great question to ask yourself is, “Am I being part of  the problem or part of the solution?” If there is something you can do to resolve a problem, then take the action and do it. Taking action empowers you to feel accomplished and that you have some control over the negative situation.

If the problem has to do with something outside of your control, maybe practicing some positive activity can take your mind from a negative place back to a positive place so you are no longer focused on the negativity. For example:

• Meditate

• Work out or stretch

• Engage in quiet relaxation while listening to music you love

• Read or go for a walk

• Work in the yard

• Socialize with positive friends

• Journal

Practice doing something creative like baking, some kind of art, or something that makes you feel plugged into your spirit like singing or dancing.  These activities will distract you from the negativity and help you feel positive again. You are much more likely to be able to problem solve effectively when you are in a positive mindset!

Imagine yourself like a lotus flower. Even in a pond, the lotus flower’s petals remain dry and untouched because they contain a wax that repels the water. Let the negativity roll off of you. Create a barrier between you and the negativity so you can separate yourself from it. Practice being like the lotus flower.

So is it a mountain or a molehill?  You’re attitude and the action you choose to take can determine whether you stay in the problem or focus on the solution!

Copyright 2014    Robin B. O’Grady

FB: The Optimists Edge


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